What the book is about:
This nonfiction book is an exploration of parenting, specifically mothering, from the point of view of the gospel.
Its easy for a mother to think of all kinds of things we think our kids need from us and all the ways we must be perfect as ourselves to meet those needs. This book turns that idea on its head by confirming that we actually don’t have it together and we were never intended to.
From the Christian perspective, we know that we are to depend on God for everything, but this book really dives into that, even saying that day by day and moment by moment we understand that we’re not meant to have it together. She even takes a step further by exploring the idea that it’s precisely our imperfections as a parent that should help drive our kids toward Christ. After all, if mom is perfect, then why do our kids need God? And if we can do it all by ourselves, why do we need God?
Chapter by chapter, Brooke tears apart some common parenting misconceptions and presents some hard to swallow biblical truths, but wraps them in such a loving blanket that it’s impossible to feel judged by her. In fact, her personal stories ensures that the reader doesn’t feel judged because she once was right where we are, and probably still is more often than she’d like to admit.
What I liked:
- Tone: Her tone is so friendly and relatable, yet authoritative, and it drew me right in.
- Personal connection: At no point does Brooke ever say “I’ve never struggled with this, but here’s how to fix it.” She is right there with us every step of the way, sharing her own personal struggles and working through each of the concepts she shares.
- Hard Truth, Beautiful Truth: She ends each chapter with a hard truth and a beautiful truth. The hard truth is what she’s been hammering home about our weaknesses and the beautiful truth is how God comes through for us and how our weakness is only the beginning of the story.
- Gospel-centered: She is right in line with her gospel interpretations because it often makes me squirm just a little with conviction. As much as I’d love to feel like I’m doing it right, she doesn’t give me that satisfaction, and it’s precisely what I needed.
What I didn’t like:
- This feels like a terrible cop-out, but I feel like I didn’t find anything I didn’t like about the book. Sure, there were times where I couldn’t relate to her because our personalities are different and her stage of life is different than mine, but that’s no reason to dislike the book.
Overall thoughts and opinions:
I really enjoyed this book even though it took me a while to actually pick it up and start reading it. In the first chapter, I struggled to relate to it and thought of two friends who I think would really benefit from it, but as I got further into it, I realized that it’s for me, too. There are so many areas in which I struggle to be the kind of mom I want to be and the kind of Christian I want to be and Brooke reminds me of what’s really important. She doesn’t mince words or sugar coat them, either. She presents some hard truths about life and how it works, but then she softens it with how our faith fits into it.
In today’s world, I find that often Christianity is tailored to make me feel better about myself and what I’m doing. I didn’t feel that a whole lot in this book, but instead was reminded yet again of things that I KNOW I need to be doing but I’m just not doing.
I appreciated her honesty and her tone, it was like sitting across the table from her, just having a conversation about life and how she’s managed to work through some of those issues she had. She reminds us of the importance of daily being in the Word and saturating ourselves with God because after all, that’s what the Christian life is about. It’s not about us or our kids, but it’s ultimately about God and how we life our life in response to what we know about Him and what He’s done for us.
We can certainly try to live our lives with a dash of God on the side, but that’s not the best way we can do it and Brooke beautifully lays it out in a way that’s accessible and judgment free. I highly recommend this book to any mom trying to live a more gospel-centered life. I give it five stars.
I received this book for free from Blogging for Books in exchange for an honest review